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Maybe I Shouldn’t Have Been as Open, but I’m Glad I Was
Honestly, had I known then what I know now, I would probably be more guarded. I’d share a little less about my college relationship and I’d maybe wait to share so much personal stuff until after I was done. However, those are the posts that I look back on the most. The ones that anchor me in my writing and remind why I want to blog. It’s never fun to say you were wrong or something didn’t work out. But it’s also not accepting that there is always some good in everything. I didn’t look back at my archive for about 1.5 years due to it being too painful. Did I want to delete the past? Pretty much. But I also know and knew then, you cannot have growth while being comfortable.
Plus I was a little naive about how many people were going to read my blog. Probs could have like, not freaking shared that I basically flunked math and my letter to myself about college. Oh well. I think that I wouldn’t have what I have now if I understood this was going to be a long-term thing.
Do Not Blog For Anyone But Yourself
There is no point in blogging for anyone but yourself. As much as I love the community, the love and support, this is for me. This blog started as a way for me to be able to look back om during times and remember if I could get through that, I can get through anything. No one is forcing anyone to blog, don’t act like it’s a job. No one is going to be upset if you don’t have a post up 3x a week. This is all self-imposed. Give yourself a break. Don’t tweet out that you have a post going live in 10 minutes, you will only realize how no one is waiting around for that and put out the content you want to see in the world.
Numbers in No Way Define You
Your size does not define you. Your readership does not define you. Your Instagram following does not define you. Sure, it’d be great to have like 10x the following, but what am I going to do with that? I would feel 10x the pressure to spend more money, force my friends to document everything I do and be exposed to trolls. I’ve realized how much numbers creep into our lives everyday. At the end of the day, what does that get us? (If you are someone who has that genuine large following, congrats! You are awesome and I am genuinely happy for you!)
On a more personal note of numbers, I have talked a lot about body image over the years. College weight gain and weight loss, thick thighs and exercise. Oh and the importance of size representation.
Friendships Come from the most Random Places
Example: My friend Jennifer owned a small business and we met up to talk about a collab for the blog.
Then we emailed. Throughout college. Like, over 100 emails back and forth daily. We broke Gmail’s formatting sometimes due to our back and forth. We then threw a blogger brunch – which ended up on a troll site which was GREAT! We worked on her jewelry brand from website launch to pop-up shows. I graduated college and she had her first child. Still emailing, texting and doing hangouts all day long. The day is completely off if we don’t chat.
All because of blogging.
Blogging Made me a Feminist
Blogging has taught me to cheer, support and scream from the rooftops for other women! I would have done that anyway, but blogging adding in such a different layer for me. I want people to succeed. I want them to talk about issues that are important to them. The community I have from other women has emboldened me to talk about so many things. We need each other. I am so down for the voice that has risen from blogging and the ways we are going to continue to fight for what’s right.
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Proudest Moments
It’s hard to figure out exactly what were my best moments. There’s about 15 different categories I want to go through, but that seemed excessive even for me. Here are some of the moments that have stood out to me.
- One of the proudest moments I’ve ever had in blogging was when I put up this post and my dad said he was proud of me and knew it wasn’t easy. I really didn’t think my dad even knew my blog’s name. I still tear up thinking about reading that text.
- My sister’s kids watching my TV interview about my blog and thinking I was cool. I’m never too old to want the approval of my nieces and nephews, no matter how young they are.
- The collaborations I’ve gotten. Old Navy is a favorite, but recently ModCloth has been so freaking fun to work with!
- That time I was just freaking tired of PR people trying to get me to do free stuff for them. This was and still is one of my biggest pet peeves about blogging. You are seriously getting paid to reach out to me and tell me that you’d like free advertisement for consideration of sharing on social media? Nope. Nope. Nope. BYE.
- The community I feel with people across the world. I really cannot say enough about this. You are amazing.
If you can’t tell, I’m a little sentimental right now, so I need to wrap this up before I cry more. But it’s been so good guys. And I can’t wait to keep seeing how good it’s going to get.
Jess Zimlich
5 years …WOO! I love that your Dad texted and said he was proud of you, that’s the absolute sweetest 🙂
Jessica
Congrats on 5 years! I don’t blog, but I did throw out or delete pictures/memories related to my first serious boyfriend after we broke up, and now I kind of wish I hadn’t? Not that I want to be back with that person, but the time that we spent together wasn’t all horrible.
I also completely agree the paragraph about blogging for yourself. ” No one is going to be upset if you don’t have a post up 3x a week.” I enjoy reading bloggers when they post but rarely do I notice if they usually post on Wednesdays but skip for whatever reason Give yourselves a break, bloggers! Your followers will be happy to read whenever you have time to post.
Rachel Emma | Austin Style Blogger
Ugh, giving me all the feels! While I think I learned I was a feminist in college, I know blogging has made me a better feminist. You’re so right, we need each other! And I love all your personal posts, they inspire me to share more and to be a better writer (my weak suit tbh)! 🙂
Can’t wait to see you next week!! Eeeeee!
Jennifer
You my girl #1
Priya
Happy Blogiversary (do people still say that??)
I can relate so hard to the repercussions of maybe being too open (specifically about a long-term college relationship!) Looking at my archives is hard too, ouch. But you know- that was a (huge!) part of life. NOT blogging about it would have felt even weirder.
And 100% YES to blogging for yourself first and foremost! I am so glad you said that!! I feel the same way and always feel a bit selfish/bitchy when I say that, but the truth is, blogging takes up so much time that it would not be worth it otherwise. The community etc. that comes along with it is great but I do it for me, first and foremost, and try to remember that when I’m creating content (“Do *I* care about this? Do *I* want to look back and read this? Do *I* like this outfit? Does this matter to *ME*) Right on gf.
Priya the Blog
Kristina
Loved reading this Alissa – cheers to five years!!
Kristina does the Internets
Blaire
It sound like you have had an incredible and fulfilling blogging career! I completely agree about the numbers. We turn a bling eye to those all of the time, and I think we are more balanced as bloggers because of that. So, happy 5 years to you and cheers to many more.
xo, Whitney and Blaire
Peaches In A Pod
Angela
Congrats on 5 years, and you have a lot to be proud of!!
xo,
Angela
Laura
Loved reading this! Congratulations on making it 5 years! That is an amazing accomplishment!
Karly
Cheers to 5 years, girlfriend! This was a great post for both new and seasoned bloggers. I need to take some of it into consideration for sure. So proud of you and glad we’ve been able to connect through this world.
Beka
Happy 5 years girl! Blogging is fun and the journey it takes you on is even funner! (even though that’s not a word). =)
Zorica
Beautifully written.
Great post.
xx
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